Too Busy? Just say ‘NO’

No. Such a small simple word, two letters one syllable. So why is it so difficult for some of us to say? Is it the finality of the word, the negativity it represents or the abruptness in how it sounds? Yes it’s all of these things, because to a lot of us saying ‘no’ feels like we’re refusing the person rather than refusing their request.

It could be that you’ve helped organise the Christmas do in the past, but now have other responsibilities and don’t have the time; or you may have offered to take on a little but are being lumbered with far more than you bargained for. If you feel that ‘yes’ is leading you to stress then it’s perfectly OK to do yourself a favor and say no.

Here are a few little tips to help you refuse politely and conclusively:

• Be brief, honest and respectful in your response;

‘‘I’m sorry I’d love to help but I just don’t have the time this week’

When dealing with someone who’s a little more pushy be prepared to repeat your refusal, don’t back down and stand by your decision.

• Don’t feel obligated to explain yourself or panic about an excuse, ‘It doesn’t suit at the moment’ is a suitable explanation.

• Even if you feel you ‘can’ fit it in don’t squeeze time for things on your own agenda, such as relaxation or time with the kids

If it’s not a hugely urgent favor or you feel somebody else could be easily found in your place, it’s perfectly acceptable to say no. You are not refusing the person, being rude or unhelpful you are just politely declining a request. You would understand if someone refused you politely and courtly, and so people will understand it from you.

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